I had been seeing my therapist for about a year when she had to go on maternity leave. She gave me the info for a colleague who was taking over for her, and I ended up going to this therapist for a month or so. I feel bad, but I like the new therapist’s techniques more than my first therapist’s. It’s nothing against my first therapist, I just feel like her style connects more with what I need at the moment. But now, my first therapist is back from maternity leave and is ready to start up again. I don’t know how to say that I want to stop going to therapy with her. I’ve had one session already and I froze up. Now I have two therapists and I don’t know what to do!
This seems like a predicament that a TV show character would get into. Also, it’s 100% something that I would get myself into. In fact, I’d probably start seeing the two therapists long term and that would be my new life.
Here’s what you do, or what you can do should you wish. Email your first therapist and say that you appreciate the progress you’ve made with her but that you want to stop sessions with her at this time. If she emails you back to have a last session, you can decide if you want to go or not. If you don’t want to, but she insists, then that’s a situation where you can ghost. Blah blah blah yes that’s being conflict avoidant, but you explained the situation and did what you could. If you’re able to pay for another session to close out your therapy relationship, then do that. Maybe skip your session with your new therapist and instead go to the first one for closure. It really is up to you, but you can only do what you’re comfortable with! Then you can process all of it with your new therapist when you’re ready.
Best of luck,